“The Bachelorette” alum Rachel Lindsay is sharing some regrets about not having a prenuptial settlement together with her ex, Bryan Abasolo, whom she married in 2019 after they met on the fact relationship present.
Throughout an look on Thursday’s episode of the podcast “Hidden Gems With Natasha Parker,” Lindsay opened up about her “unnecessarily messy” break up from Abasolo, who filed for divorce in January.
Lindsay, a lawyer, mentioned that she believed the rationale she didn’t transfer ahead with a prenup was as a result of she was in a “totally different” monetary scenario once they obtained married.
“We were more level,” she mentioned. Abasolo, a chiropractor, was Lindsay’s decide in Season 13 of “The Bachelorette,” filmed in 2017.
“It was just a different time,” she added.
The “Bachelorette” star, who was the primary Black lead of the TV franchise, then recommended that they weren’t initially on the “same page” with prenups.
“I just didn’t want it to be a bigger issue, so we didn’t have one. Hindsight is 20/20; I would’ve done it,” she mentioned, noting that she “always” needed to have a prenup.
“I could have never predicted that in 2024 I would be getting a divorce,” she mentioned. “You just never know what life’s going to throw at you, what’s going to happen.”
Lindsay inspired marriage-bound listeners to get prenups, saying it’s “just smart.”
She additionally mentioned that she and Abasolo are nonetheless residing collectively and that it’s “not easy.”
“The person you marry is not the same person you divorce,” she mentioned. “And I’m talking about myself, too. I’m not the same that I was when I got married… and that’s why a prenup is necessary. You’re dealing with dissolving a marriage, and you’re two different people.”
“My mistake is expecting that the people will be able to handle it in the same way, and they just don’t.”
A consultant for Abasolo didn’t instantly return a request for remark.
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Abasolo filed to finish the wedding on Jan. 2, citing irreconcilable variations. The date of separation was listed as Dec. 31, in response to court docket information obtained by The Related Press.
The submitting didn’t point out a prenuptial settlement, and information confirmed that Abasolo sought spousal assist and requested that Lindsay pay his authorized charges, AP reported.
Abasolo spoke in regards to the divorce on Instagram on the day he filed, writing in an announcement that being a husband was the “proudest role” in his life.
“My parents have been married forever and I’m a family man, but sometimes loving yourself and your partner means you must let go,” he wrote.
Abasolo and Lindsay obtained engaged on the present in 2017, earlier than tying the knot in Cancun two years later. They didn’t have kids collectively.
Lindsay had first publicly addressed her break up in a January episode of her podcast with Van Lathan, “Higher Learning.” She fought again tears as she thanked those that had reached out to supply their assist.
“Obviously it’s a difficult time,” she mentioned on the podcast, including that displaying as much as work was the “best” distraction.
“I need to distract myself from myself, and the best way to do that is to do something that I love, and I love ‘Higher Learning,’” she mentioned.
