Gabrielle Union is opening up about utilizing a surrogate to welcome her and Dwyane Wade’s daughter, Kaavia, in 2018.
In a Thursday interview with Marie Claire, the actor and advocate mirrored on the method and why, on the time, it felt much less like a medical resolution and extra like a private defeat.
“It felt like failure. My body failed,” Union mentioned. “It just felt like such a fucking public humiliation.”
Again in 2016, a physician instructed Union that her greatest probability at a profitable being pregnant could be via surrogacy — a path she’s spoken about earlier than and detailed extensively in her 2021 memoir, “You Got Anything Stronger.”
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She went on to explain surrogacy as feeling “like a cuckold,” watching one other lady do one thing she desperately wished to do herself — one thing her personal physique, as she then believed, had betrayed her in not having the ability to.
The emotional toll didn’t finish there. Supporting the surrogate via being pregnant introduced its personal sort of ache — a every day reminder of what she as soon as perceived as her personal shortcomings.
When requested how she responded to individuals who take difficulty with surrogacy, Union responded: “First of all, nobody has the balls to say that shit to my face, so I don’t say shit because nobody’s said shit.”
Union added that adopting an “I don’t give a fuck attitude” has been key to navigating not simply this journey, however life usually.
Earlier than selecting surrogacy, Union critically thought of present process a grueling therapy that provided her solely a 30% success price of carrying a toddler to time period — and would have taken a big toll on her well being.
“It was something my husband said that changed my mind,” she wrote. “I told him I wanted to try the drug. Dwyane was quiet, then said, ‘You’ve done enough.’”
