Effectively, perhaps it’s simply incompetence, and not the weaponized selection.
On Wednesday, Jason Kelce admitted on his podcast “New Heights,” which he co-hosts along with his brother, Travis Kelce, that he loves it when his spouse Kylie Kelce bugs him to do issues round the home.
“What I respond to, really well, is nagging,” the previous Philadelphia Eagles middle admitted 27 minutes into the episode. “Please nag the fuck out of me!”
He continued, “Tell me to get my lazy ass up, and take the goddamn trash out. If you tell me to take the trash out, I’m not going to be like, ‘Oh, I can’t believe she’s telling me to take the trash out.’ I’m like, ‘Yeah, you’re right. I should be doing that. OK, I’m sorry.’”
Kelce went on to clarify that he wants his spouse to nag him as a result of in any other case, he’ll get “caught in my own thoughts and forget to do things,” inflicting him to procrastinate.
The previous NFL participant mentioned that his penchant for pestering probably stems from his sports activities background.
“I like coaching. I’ve been coached my whole life. I want people to tell me. I need that,” he mentioned.
Kelce emphasised, nonetheless, that he would by no means dream of nagging his spouse to do something.
“I have never ever, and I will never ever, tell Kylie to do something around the house, because, I don’t know, she does enough,” he mentioned of his partner, with whom he shares 4 younger youngsters.
“If something doesn’t get done, it’s like, yeah, well, I should be helping out on this. Tell me what I can do because I am worthless unless you tell me that.”
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Kylie Kelce, nonetheless, isn’t as captivated with her husband’s “pro-nagging” stance, the previous skilled athlete mentioned.
“She’s like, ‘Jason, I don’t want to tell you to do these things.’ And I’m like, ‘I get that. I’m just like, you know, it’s not going to get done unless you tell me to do it,’” he mentioned.
Continuously reminding a partner to do family chores is a part of the psychological load or invisible labor girls typically disproportionately carry in heterosexual relationships. It could additionally embody organizing playdates, making physician’s appointments, tackling the grocery record and sustaining the household’s feelings.
“Mental load, also commonly called, ‘invisible work,’ has evolved to mean the behind-the-scenes stuff that keeps a home and family running smoothly, although it’s hardly noticed and is rarely valued,” Eve Rodsky, writer of “Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much To Do (and More Life To Live)” defined to CNN in 2023.
“The problem is that, while important and often meaningful, these acts take significant amounts of time, and women are doing most of them,” Rodsky added.
Rodsky mentioned that one of the simplest ways to even out the psychological load in a heterosexual relationship is for males to take “ownership of a task from start to finish” with out anticipating their wives to be sentient calendar notifications.
“Owning includes not just responding to ‘how can I help?’ but also the cognitive and emotional labor that each task requires — the forethought, the planning, the remembering when, where, and how to get the job done — and without excessive oversight or input from the other partner,” Rodsky mentioned.
Though Jason Kelce may have some nudging to do his chores, he additionally mentioned that he has little respect for males who complain about nagging from a associate and who fail to do chores in any respect.
“If you have a spouse that’s against nagging of things that he should be doing, you got a shitty husband,” he mentioned. “Like, if he’s already had things that he’s supposed to be doing, and he’s not doing them, he’s the issue here, not you telling him to do his fucking job.”
